Everyone is going to the grocery store and buying bread and milk for the impending storm. Milk sandwiches and french toast are apparently popular during inclement weather. This has had me thinking – can you really prepare for the storms that you are faced with? We typically don’t have a meteorologist telling us an obstacle or a challenge will be headed our way. We aren’t given warning to evacuate or make the changes we need to stay safe from harm. If we did have warning, would we be able to change or prevent a situation from happening? Would this help or hurt?
What’s a storm for one may be a rain shower for another. Whatever the magnitude of the issue, it is still very much real to the beholder. Often I hear people say, it can always be worse. (I say this ALL the time). Yes, that is typically true. However, everyone has the right to their pain, their questioning moments, and their struggles – whether they are big or small in the scheme of life. I often ask, “will this matter 10 years from now?” If it’s a disagreement with a family member or friend, the answer is typically no. If it’s something bigger, like an illness, accident, or a loss- the answer may indeed be yes.
Recently, I spoke with a friend who was having difficulties coping with the possibility of moving away from her family, friends, and the world she loves. She didn’t want to uproot her life and her children’s lives. She then shared a tragic tale of a friend with terminal cancer, who recently lost her husband in an accident, and the looming future of their children who will likely grow up without both of their parents. My friend felt she had no right to feel badly about her own situation because it wasn’t on the scale of this catastrophic situation. She is right – it is not on the same scale. She and her family are healthy and whole, whether they stay in their current home or move out of state. They will eventually adjust and adapt to new surroundings. However, she has every right to be sad, angry, anxious or whatever feeling she is experiencing in this moment and the moments to come. This potential move may matter to her in 10 years or it may not. Only time will tell. It’s still a storm for her right now. It doesn’t have to be a category 5 hurricane for life to feel uncertain. We just need to keep an umbrella nearby to keep us from getting soaked.