I have been trying hard the past few days to focus on the positives, but have fallen back into a pattern of negative thinking. I have been thinking a lot about all of the things that “should” have happened for me this year that didn’t and all the things I “should” be accomplishing, but haven’t as of yet. As I have discussed before, “should” is shifty word. Who dictates what “should” be done? Why put expectations on yourself that may be unrealistic given your circumstances? Why set yourself up for failure and feelings of disappointment, when it is incredibly unnecessary?
This is where celebrating your wins becomes so crucial. Focusing on the positives helps shift your attention away from all the things that went wrong & let’s you relish in what went right. Again, a win doesn’t have to be life changing, it just has to have meaning to you. It can be as simple as a moment that made you smile. Here are some of my wins from the past week:
1. We had a great 4th of July. Mike and I enjoyed some adult time at a friend’s BBQ, while the kids were entertained at the best camp ever. This was followed by attending a second 4th of July get together as a family and concluded with us lighting sparklers and some small fireworks in our driveway. We all had fun and nothing ignited that shouldn’t have.
2. My 4 year old daughter and I took our puppy, Reese on a mile and half walk around our neighborhood. This is as much of a win for my girl, as it is for me. I do this walk with Reese, just about everyday. She typically wants to join me for the walk, but often gets tired & we turn back early on. This morning, she was determined to make it through. There was lots of encouragement, some whining, and a run through a sprinkler, but we all survived. She was so proud of her accomplishment that she excitedly shared it with her brothers and dad the second she walked into the door.
3. I was able to get some good workouts in and am feeling like I am gaining some of my upper body strength back. I am also proud of myself for holding back when necessary. For example, this morning while at the gym, I landed up chatting with a woman practicing handstands. She seemed to appreciate my critique of her handstands so much, she asked if I was a yoga teacher. (Maybe someday on that one…) However, I didn’t join in the upside down fun, as much as I REALLY wanted to. I’m not sure if my recovering shoulder is ready for that yet. I loved the compliment and was proud of my restraint.
What are your wins this week?